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Knowledge Is Power

A poem by Me…for whomever…

I have decided that every day I will put forth the effort to learn more about myself and better overstand my life.
From the very beginning…to the present day, I HAVE to learn what has caused my people so much strife.
This thing didn’t start with Martin Luther King or should I say Michael King, Jr….do you know who I mean?
This thing didn’t start with Mary McLeod Bethune…these are just the ones they want to be seen.
This thing started the day they started erasing Our Story and calling it their own to make us feel like nothing.
This thing started the day they decided we weren’t worth shit and wanted to treat us like we weren’t really something.
You see….until Our History is recognized and Our Story is told truthfully….
These muthafuckas gone always feel how they feel and look at us stupidly.
Everyday that we degrade Our Women and make Our Men feel like shit….
Is a step in the wrong direction and empowering that Willie Lynch bullshit.
We must understand that Knowledge is Power and THAT’S NOT JUST A SLOGAN!
We must take control of our future and fix what is truly broken.




The New Me…

The new me came about a few months ago but has been in the making for a while. As I look back on my life, I see so many experiences, people and things have brought me to this point. I don’t regret anything. I don’t harbor animosity. I don’t hate anyone. I want all of this to be clear. I don’t envy anyone’s life or jealous of anything anyone has. I am that I am. And sweetheart….I am UNAPOLOGETICALLY LOHNNIE.

My journey started a few months ago as I stated previously. I was in a bit of a rut. Trying to really figure out what I wanted and needed to do with my life. Things looked great on the outside….I guess, but inside I was falling apart. Everyday we all age and move closer in the direction we have positioned ourselves in. I was unclear of what to do. The energy that I was receiving from my housemates was killing me…slowly. I think that a lot of people don’t understand that whatever energy you receive constantly or whatever energy you surround yourself with can change the course of how things go for you as well. If you are around negative people who bring negative situations into your life….you will carry that energy with you regardless of how positive you are. So everyday, if I wanted or needed to be productive, I had to leave the house just to have a clear mind. I had to leave the house just to be able to think clearly. I look back now and think…”What kind of hell was I living in and why did I do that?” But I know why. Negative energy can hold you down so long that you can’t and won’t see how to move forward. I made excuses for why I was doing what I was doing but the truth is….I was depressed. The medication was no help to me and it pushed me down even further. Sometimes all a person needs is to just talk about what bothers them. Sometimes all a person needs is an opportunity to see clearly. Sometimes all a person needs is to find their real motivation.

Months went by. Then years and I still made no progress. I was stagnant. I had succumbed to my surroundings and I started feeling too comfortable in the life I was living. I settled. It was the worse thing that I could have ever done but I allowed it to happen because I lost something. I lost something that I had my entire life up until a few years ago. I lost my self-confidence. Allowing what I THOUGHT should have been my life to take over. Allowing what I thought should have been mine to cause me pain and regret. I let people use me and take parts of me with them. My depression took over every aspect of my life. My self-confidence was based on what others thought of me. My lack of self-appreciation took me down many dark roads and caused me to attract more pain into my life. The uniqueness that was me was MIA.

The saying goes….”Whatever you feed will flourish. Whatever you starve will surely die.” I had to make a conscious decision to love and care for me and my life. I was feeding what was trying to kill me. I was feeding what was trying to destroy me. In life, we must decide what we will continue to feed and what we want to die. Thought, energy and words give power. What we fail to realize is that focus feeds the beast…whether good or bad…it feeds it. When you constantly give a person, a thing, a topic, an issue…anything you give energy or focus will grow. It feeds and prospers off of your attention. For months I believed that by spreading awareness of Lupus and the fact that I lived with this illness everyday would help draw more attention and help shed light. Honestly, all it did was drag me further into depression, hurt, dis-ease and confusion. I believed that it was what my life was all about but in reality I was birthed to be so much more than what I have! I started hurting and being in more pain than I have ever been. I was feeding the beast! My entire adult life I had lived with Lupus and no one knew! People would come to me and say that they never knew and wanted to know when I found out. I had been knowingly living with this dis-ease since I was 15 years old yet I had been living my life like I had no problems! Why? Because I didn’t feed the beast. I didn’t blame every pain, hurt or situation on my life with Lupus. Don’t get me wrong….I’m not saying that anyone should ignore their health. I’m not saying that you should just up and stop taking your meds. But what I am saying is that medicating isn’t working. Feeding the beast is not working. Being depressed is not working. Isolating myself is not working!

The pharmaceutical “business” is an entirely different subject that I really can’t begin to touch today. However, what I will say is that all of these medications that they give us only lead to more problems. Not only more issues with the initial reason for you taking the meds in the first place but also causing other problems that have nothing to do with the initial problem! The definition of medicine according to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary the science and art dealing with the maintenance of health and the prevention, alleviation, or cure of disease. Yet modern medicine does NONE of this! It doesn’t prevent anything. It doesn’t effectively alleviate or cure anything! If anything, you develop other health issues and then go back to the doctor to allow them to make you even sicker. But again….that’s a topic for another day.


Day 7 Do you have what it takes?


Good afternoon everyone!!

It has been a few days since I last posted and hopefully you have gotten through any type of “block” that was preventing you from thinking and/or writing down your goals. It does take time sometimes to get your thoughts together and focus. Having focus is very important in this process because it makes it easier for you to think freely. When you know what you want, it makes it easier for you to “focus on your focus”. When you are “focused on your focus”, you have made up your mind about what you need and you are determined to bring your dreams into fruition.

Is it hard to “focus on your focus”? YES! If everyone was focused on their focus, everyone would be successful! There would be no middle or lower class, everyone would be apart of the Billionaires or Millionaires club! Bring focus to your life shows that you have what it takes and you won’t let anyone steer you in the wrong way.

If it helps, keep a journal or notepad just to write down your miscellaneous thoughts. Still keep gathering newspaper and magazine clippings for your vision board. On Monday we will start working on it so write that down in your journal or calendar.

Remember, if you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact me.

~Lohnnie Cakes

“If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence. Determination. The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying, ”Here comes number seventy-one!”

– Richard M. DeVos, is the billionaire owner of the Orlando Magic

Day 3-Fresh Start Challenge


Day 3 of the Fresh Start Challenge

Hopefully, you have started writing down your goals and seriously thinking about them. I have decided what I would like to work towards and i want to share them so that you can visualize what I’m talking about. Your goals do not have to be written down this way but it’s a good way to organize your thoughts.


I have decided that I want to work on my attitude, family, finances, and my physical appearance, just to name a few. My list doesn’t include a detailed description, but that will be changing soon. I like to know exactly what direction I’m going in and what I’m working towards specifically. For example, I know that I want to work on having a monthly budget. My finances aren’t horrible but having a budget would make it so much easier to plan for my bills, savings and money for my household, personal things and things that I need to take care of.

The Fresh Start pyramid will give you an idea of a baseline. It gives you the different areas and they are very broad. Take a look:


Attitude, trust and temperance being the most important because of the world we live in today. Use this pyramid to give you some ideas.

If you ever have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. Send me an email at aboutmybusiness@live.com. I will post your question (minus your information) on my blog with an answer.

~Lohnnie Cakes

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks
into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”
– Mark Twain

Quote of the morning!!


This morning my Quote of the morning comes from one of the most inspiration African Americans in history. He made history by becoming the 44th President of the U.S.A. He has remained confident and positive about the state of the U.S. and has never wavered in what he believes.

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”

~President Barack Obama – 44th President of the U.S.A


President Barack Obama has taught me that even through adversity, you have to push forward. Change does not happen just because we want it to, it occurs when we work hard and are focused. It won’t happen in 4 days, 4 months or even 4 years. It has been proven that any change won’t actually manifest until at least 8 years after the change is made. Which means we are still reeling from the BS that Bush put into place!! Think about it….#foodforthought

~Lohnnie Cakes

My thoughts…

I have had so much on my mind and honestly, I need to start writing this stuff down!! Its really getting crazy lol….

My quote for today!!!!

“I am a feminist, and what that means to me is much the same as the meaning of the fact that I am Black: it means that I must undertake to love myself and to respect myself as though my very life depends upon self-love and self-respect.”

~June Jordan

This quote stirred so much inside of me today that I had to write a post on it! Everyday on my Facebook page, I post a quote about motivation or some type of inspirational context and because it is Black History month I have vowed to post a quote by an African American. I have come across so many inspirational quotes and motivational tools while I have been on this journey.

This quote tells me that just like I am proud to be an African American….I should carry myself like I am proud to be a WOMAN! It should tell any woman that whatever color or race or creed, you should be proud to carry yourself like  woman in the same way that you are proud to be an American…or a Chinese American…or a South Carolinian. We should never be disgusted so much with ourselves that we forget what we are or where our ancestors came from and what that all represents.

Ms. June Jordan was a Caribbean-American poet and committed activist among other things. She played a very important role in the development of black artistic, social, and politic movementsShe is also known as one of the most significant and prolific black, bisexual writers of the 20th century. Self-love was a very important topic to her and it reflected itself in everything that she did.

~Lohnnie Cakes

Affiliate Marketing

For the past few days I have been doing research on Affiliate programs and ways to make an income from just doing the things that I like to do. I have done the E Bay thing, I am a Passion Parties independent consultant, and I sell Avon.

Selling on E Bay is easy but if you don’t have constant movement and products to sell, you won’t see a definite return. Its all about finding what is selling on these different auction websites and E Bay has gotten so good that they tell you which products are selling good on the site. Great tool!!

OMG!! I LOVE being a Passion Parties consultant (http://lohnniecakes.yourpassionconsultant.com btw lol) because I get to talk about something that I absolutely LOVE!! SEX!! Who wouldn’t want to talk about sex? Who wouldn’t want to have a career where all they do it talk abut sex? Who wouldn’t want to do something that constantly educated them about SEX? I’m not sure about you….but I could probably do this for the rest of my life if the economy would pick back up. Either way, I think that its not a hard business to conquer, it just takes a lot of persistence and work. There are many woman within this company who make a living doing this and (make a very nice living might I add) do very well. Hopefully, once I move this hustle will pick up.

Avon (has been my way to learn a little more about makeup. I wasn’t a real girly, girl until I met this chick that pretty much changed how I dressed, looked and even my self-esteem. Just hanging out with her made it possible for me to see what I was doing wrong and make me want to do better. BUT by this time, I was already 25 or 26 years old!! I missed out on all the makeup lessons. How to apply eye shadow and how to make sure I chose the right colors. And even though she tried at some points, I just couldn’t get it so, I started selling Mary Kay first (too much of a time consuming thing) and then moved to Avon. The products are inexpensive! More colors, product range and more products geared towards convenience!! What more could I ask for?!? Although my eye shadow game isn’t where I would like it to be….I still know what works for me and how to look good when I hit the streets.

So all of this takes me to me wanting to continue on my path to stay home and affiliate market, video blog, make money from blogging and do me!! I definitely need help on my journey….any takers on being a mentor? lol

~Lohnnie Cakes                                 http://lohnniecakes.yourpassionconsultant.com http://www.youravon.com/lohnniegreen








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