A poem by Me…for whomever…
A poem by Me…for whomever…
It’s day two of the Fresh Start challenge and I am super excited!! Hopefully, you have given much thought to everything that I shared with you yesterday and are ready to move forward. And hopefully you have started working on your list of goals, dreams and aspirations. You can always go back and change you goals or add to it at anytime, so don’t think that the list will always stay the same. By altering your list, it shows that you are growing and changing.
No matter what your goals are, they are very special. Why? Because they belong to you! And because they are what is most important to you. Otherwise, why would it be a goal or dream? You wouldn’t want something if it wasn’t special to you or something that you aspire to have. So why sell yourself short? Why not work towards your dreams?
Often we want something but we don’t follow through or we think that we can’t have it. Believing in your abilities is a part of self-love and plays an important roll in self-confidence and whether or not you know how to self-motivate. No one can give you those things because they are things that you must do for yourself. Hence the word “self”. You should never look to anyone else for the things that you should give yourself FIRST! Never look to anyone else to love you if you can’t love yourself. Never look to someone to compliment you or give you a boost if you don’t have confidence. Never look to another to motivate you if you can’t even motivate yourself to get out the bed or reach for the sky to reach your goals.
You must provide for yourself FIRST. Give yourself the things that you need then you can allow others to compliment or add to what you have already done. It’s like when you are raising kids, if you give your child everything they need without them working for it, they will always expect that. They will never know what it took for them to work for it.
Expect change and embrace it. If you don’t adapt to change very well, you aren’t ready for a Fresh Start. With this process, change will come rapidly and you have to be ready to handle it.
One thing that I can suggest is to find a place where you can sit in peace and quiet for about 30 minutes to an hour every day. By doing this, you are allowing your mind to wonder and breathe. Think about what you want and how you can expand your goals. Think about the path that you need to take to get there and whether or not you are ready to take that journey. Nothing worth having is given to you or even free. Sometimes when you acquire something that was given to you, you don’t keep it long. It can be taken from you, you may just not appreciate it or it breaks. When you work for something, you appreciate it and value it. It means something so why would you mistreat it?
I hope that I have given you something to think about. I also hope that you give some thought to your goals. Please work on writing down your goals. Also, start gathering magazines, newspaper clippings and a piece of cardboard or a presentation board. Over the next week or so we will start working on your vision board. A vision board is a way for you to put your goals and dreams on paper and visualize it. Go to the Vision Board website and get ideas by clicking here.
These are two examples of vision boards by others.
Your board will represent everything that you want so put some thought and time into what you want on it.
“I want every day to be a fresh start on expanding what is possible.”
― Oprah Winfrey
June is a big month and I plan on making it even bigger!! I will posting about my FREE 30 day Fresh Start challenge in the month of June. The course will take you through day to day lessons on things to do move forward, start fresh and have a better life.
I will taking the challenge myself and if you have any questions about the course itself, please ask. Again, this course is FREE and it only requires that you follow me for the day-to-day lessons.
My story is a story of a preteen/teenager aching, suffering, learning, coping and surviving. My story starts when I was around 12-13 years old. I remember it above any other memory because it was the first time that I had ever been really sick and my parents couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me.
My father has been a Licensed Pharmacist for over 30 years and had read or seen just about everything. A very knowledgeable man that doesn’t mind learning and growth even at 66. My mysterious illness came from out of nowhere and lasted the entire summer. He didn’t know what to think.
That summer was spent either in bed or in the bathroom. I slept and vomited the entire summer. I never went to the doctor that summer because just how it suddenly appeared, it suddenly disappeared! The school year started and there were no problems. I went through the seventh and eighth grade with no problems or feeling sick. At least not like the symptoms I dealt with that summer.
I was at that stage where I was becoming a young woman and dealing with the issues that young women go through. It was especially hard for me. I had to stay home every month on the day that my cycle started. I was always in so much pain. I could never keep anything down that day and I was miserable.
The summer of 1995 came and I was super excited and super nervous. I would be going to the 9th grade. Wow!! I didn’t know what to do with myself! I was entering high school and I was worried that people wouldn’t like me and that I would have the same problems I had in middle school.
I had been blessed with this curly hair and it got on my nerves! It never held a style. It did what it wanted. It is thin and curly. Today, even though I call it a blessing, I also can call it a curse. The least bit of moisture would kill a style and have me out of $60. Needless to say the females in the town I lived didn’t like me and a lot of it had to do with my hair, my complexion and me looking “exotic”.
The summer of 1995 was a repeat of that summer before middle school. I was in pain all summer, vomiting and sleeping. This time I developed lesions that left scars when they healed. I had never had scars on my face and I was mortified! I cried. Once school started, my illness didn’t just disappear. My arms and legs started hurting to the point where it was hard to walk. Climbing the steps at school was a task in itself and required so much energy that I used to sleep during my Algebra class. Thank God that I had an understanding teacher! By this time my mom had gotten enough of not knowing what was going on with me. She made an appointment with a Dermatologist.
The Dermatologist took one look at me, asked a couple of questions and told me that she wasn’t 100% sure but she believed that I had Lupus. She explained the illness to my mother and I and told us that she would refer me to one of the best hospitals in South Carolina.
This was the beginning of my sixteen year journey to becoming who and what I am today.
March is National Women’s History Month although I am late…..I am forever blessed because I am a woman!!!! Woman, like other groups, have dealt with oppression and being mistreated just because of our gender. If you are a woman, learn about your past. Take the time out to know the lineage of women who came before you.
Every year a theme is sought that will help give women what they may need in life. The theme for 2012….Women’s education and ,of course, empowerment!! Visit the National Women’s History Month project page to learn more.
“Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!”
– Anne Frank
Have a blessed day!!